PEACE WITHIN YOURSELF & YOUR HOME MATTERS TO YOU.
So you feel a massive pull to do it all, perfectly – to please them all.
Yet no matter how hard you try or how much you give away, someone is always disappointed.
(especially you)
& then you’re left depleted and second-guessing yourself.
It really is no fun constantly giving yourself away…
Here’s the thing – a long long time ago you learned how to be a good little girl whose job is to be all things to all people while trying not to rock the boat.
And since then, with the strategies you developed as a young child, you’ve been trying but you’re noticing that you tried so hard that you have left the boat (and are floating elsewhere).
Here’s what no one told you (because they didn’t know): You cannot be all things to all people – that mindset is costing you.
But, don’t despair! It is possible for you to live a magnificent & congruent life!
All you have to do is discover the power of living authentically boundaried (big one, I know).
Now you’re discovering that you will not get your life back by bypassing your pain through books, mantras and feel-good affirmations.
What you need is to be yourSelf and tell the truth.
But how freaking hard is that?!
Most of us don’t even give ourselves permission to know what our truth actually is …
We have become so accustomed to:
masking the truth for fear of hurting another (or protecting ourselves)
aiming for perfectionism and settling for (the inevitable) disappointment
doing it all, alone.
Remember – all meaning is context dependent
(there is intelligence to all that we do)
The context of “good girl” reveals the driver is safety through compliance.
Please don’t take my word for it – check in with yourself.
What happens inside of you if you dare to consider telling the truth of your experience?
What will people think, right?
Will I be shunned? Shamed? Excluded? Humiliated? Fired? Divorced? Will my mother roll over in her grave? Will gravity cease to hold me to the ground?
I think not.
But those are the fears that drive the bus of our habituated choices… year after year, generation after generation, until some brave soul declares: STOP.
If you’re ready to explore a different potentiality for yourself, join us for…
The Boundaries Bootcamp
Building a Stronger Self
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A complimentary online five day challenge intended to evolve your thinking about good-girl programming as we explore what could be possible for you when you notice the power of boundaries in your life.
Yup. We’re going there – exploring the dreaded, dirty b-word. Boundaries.
It's a state of being we have been taught to shun in favour of appearing appropriate. It isn’t bad, and it isn’t wrong, and for some of us, it is no longer useful.
Continuing to buy into the “being nice” mindset has a deadly personal cost. If you’re reading this, you’ve likely experienced it yourself.
What has been the personal cost of being nice to you?
Any of these feel familiar –
Resentment? Fear? Agitation? Frustration? Anger? Sadness? Rage? Outrage? Feeling like you don’t belong? Like no one cares? Like no matter what you do you feel less-than? Like you’re being taken advantage of?
If that’s you, I want you to know: there is nothing wrong with you. Your internal state is a consequence of the belief systems you’ve become accustomed to.
And it no longer has to be that way.
Because you say so.
Bring your questions and receive coaching feedback in almost-real-time (but also from the comfort of your home) in the private Telegram group. This is a space where you:
unpack your discoveries,
connect with other women,
and receive complimentary coaching from me to help you contextualize what you’re learning.
Here’s how it will work:
Challenge your thinking with daily emails from December 17 to the 21st. Short lessons and a series of higher order questions to ponder and implement throughout the day, about “good girl” programming and boundaries.
Empower yourself in this small group of women gathering, talking.
On the fifth day, we will gather for a LIVE 90-minute Q&A wrap up coaching session on the 21st, where I will be available for anything that shows up for you.
This is not yet another passive workshop – this is a five day challenge intended to provoke your thinking about yourself.
After all, how you show up for yourself becomes the attractor for the life you are living. That whole energy flows where attention goes thing…
So let’s explore together what’s possible for you when you:
Question the cultural conditioning that tells you who you should be
Explore how and why so-called “good girl” programming is detrimental to your well-being
Discover what lives on the other side of embracing your authenticity as a non-negotiable boundary
Share the truth of your experience in the good company of a small group of women intentionally evolving
You cannot become authentic by reading yet another how-to set boundaries book.
You could not outsource “the work”, either.
Choosing to become other-than the familiar is no easy task, otherwise everyone would do it.
That’s why I created this five-day challenge over the holidays – so you can engage in your own time and space, knowing you’re supported, and evolving in community.
One of the most detrimental stories women have been fed is that we have to figure it out alone. So we read all the books and go to the retreats and do all the drugs but we constantly keep falling short. I won’t promise you a one and done transformation with this five day challenge – but I will promise you an opportunity to discover that there is an alternative way to live that leads to lasting transformation when engaged mindfully.
Take ownership over the quality of your life by exploring what’s possible when you question your conditioning and it’s relationship to becoming authentically boundaried.
Curious?
All you have to do is show up for yourself for a few minutes a day & engage.
You will get an opportunity to …
explore how you came to be who you believe yourself to be as “good girl” and caretaker of relationships
explore a different process to engage that allows you to take ownership of your tough internal moments of chaos.
experience CODE Model Coaching with me via Telegram & the LIVE Q&A.
form connections with other transformation-oriented women worldwide.
discover what’s possible for you when you embrace authenticity as boundary
did I mention, it’s all complimentary ?!
My Christmas gift to you …
DON’T DRAIN YOURSELF THIS HOLIDAY SEASON.
Fuel your energy by taking time & space for your Self, your evolution & your well-being.
Sure, you could wait until later, but how much have you already waited …?
Join us for the five day challenge and embrace the possibility of evolution.
FAQ’s
All you need to know…
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This is a five day challenge that will provoke your thinking around people-pleasing and becoming boundaried.
It consists of:
daily emails for five days with short lessons
a private group Telegram coaching for five days
a live 90 minute Q&A wrap up session
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Once you sign up, you will receive a welcome email with further instructions.
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This is a five day exploration that will require 5 to 15 minutes a day, plus the 90 minutes on the final day. How else will you spend that time right in the middle of the holiday season?!
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Because after looking for over a decade, I finally found what I was looking for: the process for the journey ‘Home’. I live and breathe this paradigm. You might consider engaging for yourself because the WEL-Systems Institute has been a pioneer in transforming women’s lives through cutting-edge practical wisdom for over 30 years.
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No, the bootcamp is free. However, your attention is required.
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Of course! Just message me with anything that comes up for you. I’ll do my best to support you in your evolution.
Already know you want much more than just five days?
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We’ll begin our new yearlong gathering of “New Ways in Chaotic Times” in January, 2025.
Starting the year ‘right’ with the theme of:
Becoming a Boundaried Badda$$.