Shame is culture's most powerful weapon because it works. In the last Igniting Your Potential monthly gathering, I found myself saying something along the lines of “parents intentionally choose shame as a tool in order to control their children's behaviour”. 

You see, that’s the fundamental lie that plagues our global cultural beliefs. Everything is peachy out there and if you feel anything but numb to all the (utterly indisputable) bullshit, then there’s something wrong with you.

As my brain starts this nonsense chatter, I notice. I realized as I'm engaging in this habitual and familiar process of “hurry up, we have to go”, the effect of that is causing my son to speed up. Yikes!The gift of giving myself permission to notice became my invitation to slow down. To mindfully and intentionally take three deep breaths before I tell him to move along. In that nanosecond, both our lives transform …

Looking back on the mom I was to the mom I am now. Massive difference. It’s not perfect and never will be and that’s ok. It was never supposed to be perfect.

That is what trusting what the full measure of the godForce we each are looks like. Never betraying the Truth of my moment, nor giving directives on how to live your meaningful life. Truly, my greatest gift to each person that crosses my path is empowering them to the process of choice, while being indifferent to the choices they make. I trust this makes sense.

Conversations like Decloaking put you back in the driver’s seat of your life, and in fact, insist you stay there, minute by minute, choice by choice. No handing off responsibility to a therapist or drug or trusted friend. You are the expert of you. I am the expert of me. Empowering? Absolutely! But in this moment when I’m about to plunge into freezing cold water, well, what the hell do I do now?

I can never be more intimate with another than I have given myself permission to be with myself. In that, I must be in willing to be with my own disagreements inside myself to the point where I integrate the double binds and anchors and lies. I must choose to remain comfortable in my discomfort of not-knowing and uncertainty yet give myself permission to BE in all that IS. I must create enough space inside myself to hold all the paradoxical truths as equally real in order to integrate them. I must be willing to take sacred responsibility, inside myself, about my contribution to the external reality I am living.

Decloaking and Living Authentically 1. introduces you to a reliable and predictable process you can engage today to begin transforming the quality of your life. 2. Decloaking is the stepping stone to a paradigm shift from being externally referenced to being internally referenced. THAT is the single, most massive mindset shift you can make that will free you from the confines of cultural conditioning internalized through your upbringing. Make friends with your mind, make peace with your life.

Today on Sparking the Sacred podcast, we are in conversation with Jennifer Hatt.Jennifer is a CODE Model Coach™, an author and a publicist. As a fellow colleague and an enthusiast of the WEL-Systems® original experiences, Jennifer has agreed to be my guest in this episode where we explore what it was like for her to engage the Whispers from Within™ experience with me.

So, this mother's best advice to my three year old? Be yourself, and tell the truth! Notice where you deny, defend, dismiss, avoid. Notice where you think you know best. Notice where you hook yourself to an illusion to try and sustain the status quo of your life. Notice when that's no longer serving you. Notice your unfolding mindfully in every breath, and choose every choice consciously. Seek the higher order truth that's beckoning to be revealed to you, and you will find it ... over and over and over ...