In the cause and effect equation, women are taught to make choices, often reactive and habituated, that keep them firmly on the effect side. On the effect side of the equation, life looks like ...

At that moment, I found myself feeling totally disoriented and confused, as if the time / space continuum had shifted and, somehow, did not apply to me. 

As I type this, I find myself realizing that …this is how it feels when one awakens to an alternative reality they were not prepared for, yet there it is. 

This is how it feels when we are so certain that we know what we know and then are exposed to a different reality that shows us otherwise.

This is how it feels when we live cloaked inside our worldview, resisting “the unknown” to penetrate because we would rather feel like we already know.

I think this is the state we are desperately seeking to avoid ever feeling. Because it’s disorienting. Because it’s confusing. Because it’s uncertain. 

And our cultural conditioning has taught us that uncertainty = dangerous. This makes sense when we are four and left to fend for ourselves, however, it becomes an anchor of a double-bind that keeps us unable to differentiate.

I can never be more intimate with another than I have given myself permission to be with myself. In that, I must be in willing to be with my own disagreements inside myself to the point where I integrate the double binds and anchors and lies. I must choose to remain comfortable in my discomfort of not-knowing and uncertainty yet give myself permission to BE in all that IS. I must create enough space inside myself to hold all the paradoxical truths as equally real in order to integrate them. I must be willing to take sacred responsibility, inside myself, about my contribution to the external reality I am living.

Curiosity, on the other hand, is an open ended state of being. “I don’t know” is a powerful, legitimate state of being that invites the unknown to become known. It is the state of creativity, of expansion, of evolution. It demands that we surrender that which we think we know in order to discover what it is that we yet don’t know.It is in the yet unknown that potential and possibility live.It is in the yet unknown that resourcefulness emerges from.

WEL-Systems® experiences are sacred conversations among equals. While there is no hierarchy, no gurus, no teachers, no master, there is a massive educational component to point us toward consideration of the existence of an alternative paradigm that directs us toward honouring and respecting our own inner cues. In essence, the whole point is to show us how to become, and live from, and internally referenced space. 

What does it take? To give ourselves permission to be ... other than the culturally conditioned "self" we're taught to be? What does it take to give ourselves permission to feel ... other than the "appropriate" feelings at the "appropriate" time and length? What does it take to simply be ourselves, and tell the truth?

Can we ever truly know if the story around the “majority consent” is even close to true when we cannot know how many people are consenting in the true sense of the word?If you knew how abuse works, in your bones, not in theory, you’d see the signs by now.

It takes courage to know our own truth......it takes great courage to actually speak it......and it takes immense courage to actually live it!

After all these years immersed in my own Self-discovery and personal evolution, I have come to discover that wisdom is not something I can learn in a book. Wisdom is the function of living. It is cultivated through experience. No matter how much I learn through my intellect, unless and until I am able to live it, I will never know it as real...I will only be able to tell someone else's story...and no matter how eloquently and convincingly I can tell that version of the story, it isn't mine. And I'm here to LIVE my own experience...as fully and as embodied as is available to me in any given moment. 

Reality is a social construct. Who is the storyteller? To change your life, you must change your mind. To change your mind, you must dare to question and discover...